The Biggest Secret

Do you know what the biggest secret in life is?

Relationships!

You don't need to like people. Shoot, you don't even need to love people. But you do need to be able to work with people.

People tend to get bent around the axle when they feel unsafe, have no control, no say in a matter, like they may be embarrassed, or are being prevented from achieving something. This is why working amiably is so important.

Our first launched course, DadComm, is dedicated to fathers trying to build relationships with their kids. How many kids don't get along with dear ol' dad? Enough that we have a fatherless epidemic in this country.

Our next course is specific to church security and safety teams. Who goes to church looking to NOT build relationships? Nobody!

I have worked with plenty of a**holes. Some might even say the same about me, but people fall into 4 categories:

• Disliked but Dependable/Capable

• Disliked and useless

• Loved but useless

• Loved and Dependable/Capable

Which one are you? Ideally, we would all be in the last category, but that just ain't ever gonna happen. If we are to assume the 80/20 rule is accurate then most people fall into the middle 2 categories, making them useless.

For the rest of us, we are difficult but effective. The truth is that most people would rather work with loved and useless than disliked and capable. Because of how that useless person makes us feel. To be clear, when I say useless, I don't mean in life. I mean useless in finishing a job, project, assignment, task, etc. They are great to hang out with, but they tend to leave you doing all the work while enjoying their time.

Reflect on what you bring to the table. Choose how you communicate with others as well as what you choose to communicate to others, carefully. At the end of the day, don't be a d*ck.

Brad